An Unsuccessful Society: Selfishness and Insecurity

In this day and age, supporting one another and helping "friends" succeed should be the easiest thing in the world.

We update each other 24/7 about what we do, what we're trying to accomplish.

All we really have to do is push the like button, the share button, or send a simple message saying "I think what you're doing is great," or "I hope that goes well for you."

But no, as a society, we don't want that for other people.

We could not be bothered to do any of the above. 

But why?

Sure, we're a lazy society, but how much energy does it take to push a thumbs up?

No, it doesn't have to do with laziness, it has to do with self-confidence issues.

What would it hurt to support someone else if we're confident with ourselves?

Trick question, because it wouldn't. 

We should support whatever people are trying to do, because society as a whole would be better off if everyone was more successful...and happy.

People will be happy if they see people support what they do.

But more times, we're questioning our "friends", because really, it seems they don't want us to succeed.

A major thing I think folks these days should look for in confidants is:

support.

Because these days, it's hard to find.

Your friends should help you, promote you, want the best for you.

And I don't think most people do. 

I have very few friends who I think really support me.

Don't mock what I do, tell me you think it's cool.

Even if you don't, because maybe it isn't cool to you. But I'm your friend, and I do think it's cool.

I saw this photo on the Humans of New York Facebook page.

"I'm sure I'd be less jealous if I was more confident."

I think this statement really captures the fault in our society.

I can't support you, because I'm not confident enough to support myself.

I think this holds true for half of the people in the world.

I think the other half is pure selfishness. 

"I can't support you, and potentially fuel part of your success, because that would leave less attention and success for myself."

Which is so, so sad.

Someone once said to about me (I told myself I wouldn't write about this, but I've gotsta),

"Why don't you blog about it?"

So incredibly rude and just shows what I'm talking about.

It shows a dig at something I do that not everyone does, that doesn't affect you at all.

It's meant to mock something I enjoy doing, and that people have told me as helped them.

I'm sorry I'm doing something that isn't the usual. But I enjoy it.

So, leave me alone.

People are poisonous, I'll use my blog as an example, just because it's something I know.

People will come up to me, "I read your blog."

I appreciate you telling me that, and for reading it, but why not like, share, whatever it?

Almost no one likes my blog posts, but then tells me they liked it.

And sometimes I just feel defeated, I supposedly have all these "friends", yet no one seems to care what I'm doing.

My "friends" don't like my pictures on Instagram, even if I like all of theirs.

You don't have to support me, but don't expect me to support you or even keep your "friendship."

And it's not just my blog.

It's someone's anything.

Pursuing a modeling, singing, athletic career.

These things are huge odds, but we should support people no matter what, because that's what good people do.

Starting a business, changing your personal style, becoming who you're meant to be.

Plain and simple: good people spread "good vibes" (sorry, that is so not my saying, I do see it places and it fits real well), support, and love. 

We have to move on from our own insecurity and selfishness, and support our acquaintance, neighbors, and especially friends. 

Cause that's what friends are for, right?

This post isn't supposed to just say "You're doing something wrong."
You are, but I am too. I just really encourage everyone to promote everyone's success and livelihood. 
Like your friend's business, share your friend's event, etc. It's that easy.
Technology should have made promotion easier, not more snobby.
Support those you care about, or just say hey, I think what you're doing is really neat, even if it's a complete stranger!

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Thanks guys! It's just something I think the world is not really addressing.
People are selfish, the actions we have to take are not hard.
Another thing I saw today that I thought was really cool was this little link right here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XjJQBjWYDTs
From Always, shames using "like a girl" as an insult.
#Likeagirl...the least we can do is promote and not demote someone's basic biological sex.

Thank you for reading, I hope ya'll enjoyed!
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Twitter: @alannajean2013
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Also, this was supposed to be my Youtube Channel cover, but Youtube is winning in the smart struggle right now. Thank you for the (very) few who support me in what I do. You're my heart.

-Alanna